Updated: Aug 17, 2022
This week we are discussing self-care! As we discussed before, self-care is the intentional actions we take as individuals to enhance and promote our own health and wellbeing. It is the behaviors that fuel our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social health, etc. The world around us can feel particularly draining at this point with the pandemic and other personal and social issues going on, especially for lesbian women and any LGBTQIA+ identifying (society does not help on that front). Be mindful and take care of yourself. You need the fuel to function and live your life to its fullest potential as your true authentic self.
“TRUE SELF-CARE IS NOT BATH SALTS AND CHOCOLATE CAKE IT’S MAKING THE CHOICE TO BUILD A LIFE YOU DON’T NEED TO ESCAPE FROM” -BRIANNA WIEST
Self-Care vs. Self-Indulgence
Now, when discussing self-care, it should be acknowledged that recently the term “self-care” has been used to describe a fairly wide range of actions/behaviors. Someone could exercise, eat a full box of chocolate, and then claim both are self-care…which isn’t completely true. There is a distinct difference between what is deemed self-care vs. just self-indulgence.
Self-care is proactive, an action to benefit your well-being in the long run, whether it's physical, emotional, spiritual, etc.
Ex. Making sure you eat breakfast every morning instead of just drinking coffee.
Self-Indulgence is behaviors that provide instant/temporary gratification. Although nice at the time, self-indulgence can lead to future negative outcomes.
Ex. Getting fast food and drinks at 2 am…A fun idea at the time, but the next morning your stomach and head may beg to differ.
It is totally fine to self-indulge occasionally (I do love my morning coffee), but that alone will not get you close to your future goals. Just make sure you take care of yourself rather than just indulging. Be proactive with your self-care, and give yourself the tools to tap into your potential.
Integrating Self-Care into Your Daily Routine
It’s a goal of many people to take better care of themselves in one way or another. Life can be hard. There are instances when we forget to take care of ourselves (including myself). Here are a few questions to ask when starting this process.
1. What are you trying to accomplish? Try and establish what aspect(s) of your life you want/need to improve.
2. What does your daily/weekly routine typically look like? Routine such as your sleep schedule, when you go to work/school, when/what do you eat, etc.
3. What small changes can you make now to said routine to improve your self-care?
Now stick with these changes, so they turn into habits. Figure out what works best for you and make the required adjustments. It will take time and persistence on your part, but it's worth it.
How Can A Life Coach Help
Yes, I know working on your own self-care can be slightly overwhelming and stressful (which is somewhat counter-productive) …You do not have to do it alone though. Take the first step in your self-care journey by utilizing the support of a life coach.
The Queer Life Coach provides Life coaching service(s) specifically shaped to the benefit of women and femme-identifying LGBTQIA+ individuals. Get guidance and support through subscription-based coaching in the One on One and/or Group Setting. Develop a personalized plan specially tailored to your own self-care goals. You deserve to live the life of your dreams. Start your journey of self-care, let the Queer Life Coach be there to support and motivate you every step of the way.
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